In other important ways, dating is different later in life.
From my conversations with middle-aged people who are dating, I have distilled a few observations and lessons.
My realization that my marriage was over came the Saturday after Thanksgiving, and the holiday season was a drag.
I felt almost empty—the first night alone in the new apartment was bearable only because I was numb.
If you are plus size and dating you may find it is a little trickier to date online.
That said, I am going to give some dating advice based on my experiences as a plus size, middle aged widowed woman looking for a relationship.
We have all heard about how easy it is for a man to start dating in his fifties and how there are plenty of women to choose from. Early 30’s and never been married – these women must have “daddy issues”.
Their desire to be with men 15-20 years their senior means they are looking for someone to take care of them both financially and personally.
I had a conversation with a divorced friend who was joyfully involved in a new relationship, which gave me confidence that getting back on the dating scene could prove joyful for me, too. What did you find surprising about dating in mid-life? The most surprising realization was how much easier the process had become in the 20 or so years since I had last been involved in it.
I have been “plus sized” my whole adult life and had an eating disorder in my teens so “fat” has been an issue I have had to struggle with since I was born.
At age nineteen I decided that dieting just didn’t work and pretty much never looked back.
At the beginning, I think I was in denial about my impending singlehood.
For six months, I thought I was separated, and for about four of those, I hoped that my relationship with my ex could be repaired—against considerable evidence to the contrary.